The human component can simultaneously be the simplest and most complex component in any organization; there is a reason why companies have whole departments dedicated to it titled “human resources.” If anyone wants to be a part of society, then relationships with other people will be forever part of our lives. So, understanding human interactions and dynamics is critically important if you want to lead in an organization, a little league team, or just in your family.
Who are you dealing with?
In any interaction, there are at least 2 parties involved: yourself and someone else. It seems obvious but we discussed in a previous post (Vision and leadership) that one cannot really control anyone else except himself/herself.
That is why self-awareness and self-control should be on top of everyone’s priority to learn. Because if you don’t know yourself, then how can you tell if the problem or disagreement lies within you or the other party? Know yourself, practice listening and understanding where your emotions come from. Trace your thought patterns. I recommend writing a journal, because it helps organize your thoughts and you can review the day.
Once you understand yourself, then when you interact with someone else, the quicker, better and more accurate assessment you will have of who you are dealing with, especially when there’s conflict.
Someone who is wise and self-aware with confidence is willing to allow you to think for yourself. Someone insecure and self-interested will continuing arguing regardless of your logic because either that cannot accept they are wrong and want to prove their point, or they are trying to get a reaction out of you, which is a form of control. Once you figure that out, if the latter, then there’s no point to continue talking.
There will times when you have not done anything wrong, but people will seek to attack you. If you know you haven’t done anything wrong, then it’s their problem.
The less you react to people who are not aware of their own issues, the more they will reveal who they truly are and possibly be more aggressive to control you.
It will be better for you and your peace of mind.
Let’s rise above and lead.
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